In a world quickly becoming digital, unless you live under a rock, chances are you’ve met a few people online that live quite a big distance from you. They could be from another jurisdiction, state, or even a different country.
You start talking to this person pretty often, you realize you have a lot in common, and you start talking on the phone, video chatting on Skype or Snapchat, having a grand ole time. Pretty soon, you realize that you’re falling in love with the person, or vice-versa. You decide to give them a chance, and you escape into fantasy la-la land for the next several months. You talk about seeing each other in person one day despite the expensive train or plane ticket, you muse over living together in the near future. Expectations rise, excitement encourages, and the strong desire to be with that person inflates to the maximum.
Next thing you know, one or both of you realize that seeing each other, or everything else you’ve promised/mused about, is simply not going to happen. It’s not about the money–it’s a human need to be close.
Thus, the relationships turns to a bitter end as you realize it hurts more being in a relationship with a person you might never see, or start a life with because of your circumstances.
What I’m going to describe is particularly about teenagers and young adults having long distance relationships. Generally, they don’t have the financial stability to support themselves, let alone to prepare flight and living arrangements for themselves somewhere else or for a partner. Perhaps this can apply to older adults as well.
So, why don’t long distance relationships work?